ryan and me

This year I celebrated being with the same woman for over 20 years. We’ve had great years, so-so years, bad times (not years), but mostly great years. I have friends who have been married longer and some shorter, mostly shorter. The thought which comes to mind this year is how much I have to be thankful for. The mother of my son and adopted sons is a wonderful person. She has Epilepsy and does what she can to help us all in every way she can. Even with several seizures a day she continually works around the house and takes care of our younger son who just happens to be Autistic. My friends and family are always telling me how great it is that I do so much, but I’m not the one with the disabilities, they are.
As I was saying, I attempt to be thankful but sometimes life gets in the way. The simple fact is I need to work and take care of two people with disabilities at the same time. Now, I can go get a part or full-time job and pay everything I make in that job on having someone come in and take care of my family, or stay at home and struggle even more. I wish I knew anyone who actually offers a work at home job that I could trust. Well, any ideas ?

Well enough belly aching… I have a great family and friends, a roof over my head because we have a Landlord who really cares about us and helps wherever he can. Our family is constantly helping out with food and other essentials. Friends who give us clothes whenever they can and just being there when we need them. Overall, we have a great life. Sure we could use help with our son and his mother needs support daily with her seizures but again, we have each other and today this seems to be enough. JG

My Family



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With this post I want to pose some questions.  Do you love being with your family more than your friends ?  It’s a more difficult question than most of us give the time of day.  We all want to say our families are the only thing that truly matters, but is that the truth or just what we tell ourselves.


Would you rather watch football with your friends or at home with your wife and kids ?

When you go out, is it with your wife or with your friends or both ?

Do you talk with your significant other more than your co-workers ? Hour for hour ?

With all these questions in mind, do you care more about work related things than personal ones ?  When I think of my family it seems like all my interests are on family but that is mostly do to my families unique make-up. My son is Autistic and my wife is Epileptic. Even with all these issues, I find myself focusing on outside interests.

In conclusion,  I would like to know if anyone out there feels like they spend to much time or not enough time with their family or at work and why they think that way.  Any input would help my research.  Thank you for your time… JG